How to be more coachable? | One Good Question

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Oh okay, I'm sorry. Oh
hello, I didn't see you standing there

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recording me. It's like the Blooper
News. You know, this is our

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Friday episode that we call One Good
Question, where we take one question from

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you and from sometimes us uh and
we answer it in roughly ten minutes.

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So we're gonna jump in here.
I'm I'm Jim. There's Mike and Tiffany

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are our trainer here at third Bar? Miss deadlifts, Miss deadlifts. Yeah,

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I should ask a deadlife question,
but that's not what I'm gonna do.

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Here's a question. How do you
be a good consumer of coaching?

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Like, how do you be be
like a good student or good client?

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Yeah, a good client. I
think asking questions is huge. I think

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you should be a listener, know
what to ask, So like, if

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you have a question, don't be
afraid to ask your coach. Instead of

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looking on social media for a lot
of answers, I think you should go

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straight to the source, reading a
book, asking a certified personal trainer a

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question because a lot of it is
like I can look at you and you

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could ask me no questions and I
could say, okay, let's go do

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a deadlift or let's go do bicep, curls or whatever. But if that's

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not ultimately what you're looking for,
if you don't, maybe you don't want

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to lift, maybe you want to
do cardio, or maybe vice versa.

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Maybe you want to lift weights not
do cardio. How am I supposed to

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know that if you don't ask questions? So I think really asking the question

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to your coach is going to help
you in the long run because the more

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you know when you're first starting off, as far as knowledge goes, the

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better it's going to be for longevity. So, like, if I'm just

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getting into this right and I don't
know jack shit about technique for a movement

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or nutrition or anything, how am
I going to succeed at the end of

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the day. How am I going
to maintain that momentum into like six months,

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you know, because they say it
takes a couple months for you to

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build that habit. Yeah, sure, how am I going to do that?

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If I don't know any answers,
You're not going to You're going to

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fall short. You're going to feel
like, oh, well, I'm scoring

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through social media and I just see
people getting fit in thirty days, sixty

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days, whatever. But in reality
that's not really true. Yes, you

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know, it's it's just it's fuck
Like, there's a lot of edits on

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social media. There's a lot of
like promises that aren't really given on social

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media, and until you really do
your research and talk to somebody, you

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don't really know anything for sure,
and so you've got to have some knowledge

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around that. So I think being
a listener and asking questions is huge.

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Like, if you're coming to me
for coaching, you know, yeah,

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no, I agree, I think
yeah, naturally, for some reason,

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whether it's team sports or just socially, we always think of coaching is like

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a one way road, right,
like or like an authoritative position, where

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a lot of coaching actually like is
an authoritative it's not the same as a

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boss. So I'd agree one hundred
percent that being like proactive with your questions,

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with your needs. You don't want
to be like a hypochondriac and like

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ask every little fucking hey, you
know, my left pinky toe hurts or

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some shit. But yeah, giving
as much feedback and being really proactive online

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in person is slightly different online,
like being proact as everything, Like I'm

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not emailing shit, like if you're
not coming to me with your videos or

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your questions. I'm not chasing your
ass around in person. There's obviously it's

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more immediate for feedback, but I
would agree, I would agree, And

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you don't have to be you don't
have to like know everything to be able

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to ask certain questions or give certain
feedback and be as honest as you can.

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Coachability or like being coachable, is
the term a lot of people use,

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and like, I don't know if
that's a skill you can like hone

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in per se, you can definitely
put attention to it. It's like coachability

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or being coachable typically means that you
respond well or quickly to feedback, and

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some people just like can't you know, And that's not necessarily a bad thing.

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I mean, it's not a great
thing, but it's not something you

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should get down upon either. You
know, some people might need five reminders

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before they do just five headed yeah, or I feel like some people just

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can't absorb it as quick, especially
like lifting weights has always been a difficult

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thing to work on technique because you're
trying to move your body through space under

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very heavy load, and moving your
body through space to begin with is difficult.

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Now you're under load and doing it. So like, don't be a

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you want to be open minded as
best you can. And I think that

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you can work on but being coachable. I don't know if it's like inherent

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or innate, but it's uh,
it's a goal. But you shouldn't feel

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frustrated if you need reminders all the
time. Well that and like with lifting

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weights, everybody's technique is so different
sure, so like it's not just a

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one way road, so you have
to kind of try to figure out what

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feels best for you because you shouldn't
feel uncomfortable in any kind of lifting position.

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You should feel like you're in your
most optimal position. So sometimes that

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can take time. Yeah, it's
all right away, it's just repetition.

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It's just all right, well this
didn't work, let me try something else.

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Maybe this will work. And then
once you find it, you stick

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with it and you build on it. That's how you get stronger. Yeah,

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I think patients and trust would be
another one I would add to do

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it. Yeah, because a lot
of people like program hop is like an

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old thing people used to talk about
a lot. I don't know how common

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that is anymore, but now a
lot of people up coaches, coach hopping,

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Yeah, coach, that's probably similar
vibe streets. Yeah, but back

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in the day like very rarely,
not rarely, but more rare, that

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everyone had a fucking coach. Now
everyone seems to have a coach, but

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kind of, like you said,
it's going to take a time so to

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have a little bit of trust because
even a coach, a coach is trying

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to learn you just as much as
you're trying to learn the coach, and

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so they can't always just like have
a quick fix. Yeah, your dead

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lift just can't go up, even
if it's hypothetically the best coach on the

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planet to ever exist. They can't
just make your deadlift hop up one hundred

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pounds in a month. So a
lot of it's you too, for sure,

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Like a lot of it's your mindset
going into training, Like you know,

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like for example, like if I'm
doing a one on one and maybe

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let's say my client is a little
bit shyer, maybe not as opened up

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to me, and let's say I
see that their knees bothering them, I'm

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gonna ask them and be like,
hey, how you feeling, And nine

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times out of ten they're gonna tell
me exactly how they're feeling. But it

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just takes them actually opening up to
you, and you may be asking that

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initial question for them to feel comfortable, because sometimes people feel like they can't

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tell you how they feel, right
because you're going to be disappointed in them

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or whatever. So just that mindset
like, oh, I can't I can't

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ask this question because they're going to
make me do it anyway, or because

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they're going to be disappointed me,
Like that's horrible. They should feel like

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they're able to open up to you, able to talk to you about their

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issues. That way you can help
them in the long run, because in

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reality, right, we're working out
to be able to play with our kids

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and we're sixty and not to be
just fit in our twenties, you know,

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yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it is. Well anyway,

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it's a long game. Yeah,
you're in this for a long time.

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So the thing is, I think
it even starts earlier than that, Like

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it starts with choosing the person than
you want to work with, and and

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you're fit with them, and you're
right, you have to ask a lot

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of questions of that person about the
handle situations, and then you have to

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make a judgment about how challenged you
want to be sure by your communicating,

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by your your coach, you know, like how do you want somebody to

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push you really hard? Or do
you want, you know, somebody to

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hold your hand? Kind of Yeah, And I think the other thing is

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just is is consistency m as a
as a person who's being coached. If

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you're if you're there all the time, the coaching works better. Yeah,

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you have to show up to it. It's something that you're kind of investing

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in yourself. Like if you're paying
for what, you're asking me for advice,

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so I'm here for that. I'm
here to give you advice. I'm

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here to help you, to teach
you. And if you're not showing up,

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how can I teach you? Yeah? Environment matters a lot obviously in

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gym's like this, people tend to
stick with things a little bit longer and

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be more consistent. But like coaching
out a commercial gym, yeah, people

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are like yeah, they take like
two sessions in a expect like shit to

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happen or like yeah, oh like
I know enough now, Like all right,

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man, like good luck, Like
I'm not going to sit here in

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car salesman you but like it takes
more than two times a week to see

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any real progress, Like you have
to be doing it with your coach and

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without your coach to really see true
results and for you to gain any kind

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of determination to finish for sure.
I was just talking to I was with

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the Jen Whederstrom a week ago.
Is one of the best, one of

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my best friends, but also one
of the best trainers on the planet.

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She trains anyone from a list celebrities
all the way down to Yeah, she

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trains everybody. Uh. And I
was talking about, like, how do

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you know, how do people get
the foot in the door there? And

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what does that look like? And
and she's trained NBA players, She's trained

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everything. Wow. And she's talking
about is like also like just like want

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to be someone like to hang out
with, Yeah, you know. And

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so that's kind of a part on
both ways too, like being a client,

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like being open minded, not just
coming and being a dickhead, you

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know. And and understand that a
lot of people don't like working out.

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I'm a fitness professional for twenty years
and I don't I'm not always stoked to

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work out. But when meen you
say abouts are filming or even we're working

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out, like I'm gonna put my
best foot forward. And I think that's

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also on the client. Like everyone
expects the coach to be that being happy,

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and that's great and they should that's
part of the job, but also

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the client to come in positive and
as receptive as possible. Well also too,

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because you're not always going to be
motivated. Like there are days I

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wake up and I don't want to
train at all, for sure, But

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I do it because I know I
have an end goal that I want to

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get to and if I'm not making
progress towards that goal, how you're ever

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going to get there? Yeah?
And you probably have a coach too.

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I do. Yeah. And my
friend Jen again one of the best trainers

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on the planet, she has a
coach too. She's like, Yeah,

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I got like a special pilates coach
I go do twice a week and it's

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just to push you. Yeah.
It's well beyond just having knowledge and applicability,

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having feedback. Yeah, exactly,
it's somebody to push you to that

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next level, right, And like
some people are able to do it on

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their own, which is great,
like high five to them, sure,

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but some of us we need that
extra push. And when a client who

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is fresh. They've maybe never been
to a gym before, or maybe they've

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had experience in the past. They
might have a negative outlook on the gym

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setting itself because of the whole meatthead
environment type thing or whatever. And so

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you now have to take that mindset
and help change that for them, which

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is changing mindset is hard. I
don't care what anybody says. It's hard

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to take somebody's mindset and be like, Okay, now I want you to

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feel this way right away. And
maybe the hardest thing though it is it

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is. And so when you're teaching
somebody how to work out, a lot

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of it is mindset too. I
agree. You know you're dealing with how

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people feel. I don't think so
us not really, I don't know.

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I don't know. I was listening. I was like, yeah, he

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has got everything. Well that means
we answer the question hopefully. Where can

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they find you? Tiff shout out
Underscore Tiffany deadlifts and then at Third State

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Barbell Easy ladies and gentlemen come on
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DM or ever beater in person.
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