Jan. 8, 2025

How to make new friends in the gym?

How to make new friends in the gym?

We’ve got some holiday and non-holiday travel going on, so we’re dipping into the vault for a couple of One Good Question episodes to fill the gap.  

A lot of people are joining gyms at this time of year. Some for the first time. Gyms can make you...

We’ve got some holiday and non-holiday travel going on, so we’re dipping into the vault for a couple of One Good Question episodes to fill the gap.

A lot of people are joining gyms at this time of year. Some for the first time. Gyms can make you feel isolated…or part of a community. How do you approach other gym members to make new friends or become part of a community? Are some types of gyms better for this than others? Should you ever use the term “milady” in the gym?

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Oh here we go. Okay, we're a.

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Little spoiled in this, but we probably have some tips

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how to build friendships inside of the gym.

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Oh lord, oh boy.

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Right, we're a little.

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Spoiled because a lot of us come from community style gyms,

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where that's very normal to say hi, it's very normal

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to spot and load. It's very normal, you know, CrossFit,

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Olympic weight lifting, powerlifting, even even the more you know,

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commercially style but powerlifting gym at all, it's pretty normal

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to borrow chalk, to say what's up, to borrow some straps.

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If you're just trying to lift weights in the typical

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commercial gym, it comes.

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A little bit more difficult. There's a little more barrier.

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And I get it.

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I don't want to be talked to either at the

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commercial gym. Yeah, you know, I don't want to be

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talked to it all. But today I was skirting over

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here on my electric bike, skirting skirts car and.

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I see on my perferrole. Someone's skirting.

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Oh.

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I was like, oh, we got another skirter. This guy

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was on a scooter and then we catch a red light.

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Younger dude heading to work, maybe in his late twenties,

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had some kind of collared tea on. You know, I

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don't know where he worked, but I could see the

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logo and I got headphones on. You know, I'm blaring

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some reggae or something. Head to the gym in a

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good bood, and so I take him out and he

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asked about my bike and stuff. We just had a

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regular conversation. I swear to god, that's like so abnormal

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to me. Although that sounds crazy, I started making it out. Yeah, yeah,

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the rest is a movie. He hopped on the back

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of the bike and we just skirted off together. But

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we talked and just have like random conversation in this world.

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Yeah, that's nice.

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In California, I feel like it's not very normal culture,

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you know where, And maybe it's me for sure.

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I'm a part of it. I know that it's but

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it's also California.

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But it's in their own tunnel.

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But yeah, but you do get older, you know, all

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hang out like I was in Cleveland last year, and

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I'm hanging out with like my dad's best friend, and

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that dudes start a conversation when they you know, we're

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buying the beers at the thing, and he just starts

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talking to the cash register lady, just whiffing about, you know,

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and he's charismatic and he's funny, and so everyone lasts

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and it's funny.

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Just riffing.

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Yeah, but I feel like that is a little bit.

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More normal and like a small towny vibe, you know,

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downtown Sacramento.

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You're not doing that now.

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The cash register or the fast food person, the restaurant

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tour they don't want to talk to you. Even even

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the hostess and the waitress who their job is to

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like pseudo entertain you. They don't give a fuck anymore either.

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You know, you want more water, all right, and they

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turn around. True, you know, so I understand the commercial

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gym or making friends issue.

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There is about commercial gym specifically.

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No, but I was bringing it there because it's so

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easy in these gyms. Yeah, that's why.

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And I do I think I have a start. If

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you see someone working hard, guy, girl, whatever, you see

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him do a good lift or a good set, just

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a little walk by, a little fistmump, Hey, good set.

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Hey, I see you working? Right? You just start there?

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That's it.

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Maybe you see him again. And then every time you

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walk by me, fist momble and what is that lead somewhere?

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Maybe it does.

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If it does, you walk in the gym fistbad, what's up?

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And how are you doing?

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If it doesn't, maybe you're not meant to be friends.

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I leave. It's a destiny.

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go to commercial gym. And it is a private ish

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gym in Vegas. It's like a bodybuilding gym, but it's

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kind of that vibe. A lot of people are most

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ninety nine percent or headphones on, not looking at nobody.

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they're all, uh maybe Vegas locals, or they all compete

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in bodybuilding, you know, they're kind of buddies. And one

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of the guys works there is really really nice. That's

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the only dude a fist bump and no one knows

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who I am or what I do. There's been a

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couple of members there, you know, that have said what's up? Right?

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Hey, you're Mike right, you know.

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There's been a couple of YouTube but generally speaking, it's

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a newer gen and a lot of them are like

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business folk, you know. But though the one dude who

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works there, I think him and his lady run the gym.

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normal conversation here and there, and it's just as simple

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as yeah, like one headphone out, Hey, how's your day?

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Cool man? Hey, what are you hitting the day? I'm

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all talk kind of the same shit.

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We teach our staff here to start with our members

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to kind of make that a welcoming environment.

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Hey, how you doing. Welcome in? What are you training today?

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You know, so if you get there, but yeah, I

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would start with if it's very awkward, I'll start with

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someone that looks kind of nice, that doesn't look crazy,

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that maybe you could be friends with her, if you

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want to be friends with and just say, man, good set,

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I'll see you working, fist bump, let.

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Him be, then turn a leave. Don't linger.

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Lingering is the weirdo part, staring at yeah, say nothing,

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what's next that happens?

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I think that's the hardest part of small talk is

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when you run into somebody who really doesn't know how

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to do it at all, and like you're carrying the

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whole load and you just want to walk away.

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But I try not to carry loads. Yeahs, especially in

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the gym.

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The I feel Jim's issue and the one issue is

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that I'm really good at small talk. So I'll catch

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myself purposely trying to carry because I think they want it. Yeah,

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because I'm a people pleaser on top of it, right,

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so I'm like, all right, this person sucks a combo,

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but I'll keep this thing going. And then I get

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really strong and I'm really good at it, but I

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hate it.

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Yeah, That's why I wouldn't even small talk. Hey, good lift.

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And then literally you got a YouTube a runaway.

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I mean similar that a little It's probably a similar,

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similar thing I would offer. When you're trying to like

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date someone in the gym, you just need an opener.

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You just need to open the book.

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You don't got to read the first chapter, you know,

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you just got to read the cover of the book

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and then the chapter will come in time.

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I think like the good move with like, if you're

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trying to date in the gym, you just kind of

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walk up to you know, he.

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Goes to marriede man, what do you got, dude? Walk

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up and what you.

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Walk up saying? You know, something like you know, hello

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my lady or.

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Something that's a good start. That's a good start. Tip

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your fador shreadmill. Yeah, I said, yea offer to come

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to the ren Fair with you this week.

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Exactly.

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That's what I was gonna say.

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The next line is about a ren Fair for sure.

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If you call him a lady, you know to say hello,

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my lady, and.

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Your bosoms are looking quite plumped today.

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Man, offer you you look quenched and you offer them

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a strange like yeah, you know that is after it.

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It's not beer with the fucking drink mead meat. Yeah,

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you offer a fucking meat flagon of mead.

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I made mead, made it by hand. But I think

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I think you nailed. I think it's a quick little

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in and out interaction. Nothing crazy. Then if you see

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him again, you see him again, Yeah, you go go

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and then all of a sudden.

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You got your sign, throw him a piece sign, you

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throw him another bum and.

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All of a sudden it just kind of happens one

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day and then all of a sudden, like your entire gym,

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people that you know the gym only people you hang

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Yeah, it'll start to open up. Yeah, we'll start to

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open up because he probably did that with one other person,

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or he has one training partner. You got a training partner.

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If you have a training partner that's already with you,

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that's easier too, because then you see someone or you

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see someone like staring you, just like pick a vibe

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someone staring. He used to all for like, hey man, you

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need to work in like you want the machine?

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You know?

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You just flash on him, Yeah, bang on him.

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Do you got anything?

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full commercial gym, I would say, probably just asked to

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work in.

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Yeah, that's another one.

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Friend.

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Yeah you can fake it. You're not even doing arms today.

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He's on the preachure.

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Hey man, you mind if I've never I've never squatted

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two hundred kills before, but your friend fucking cappy for

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going down.

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See this is how I ended up in a powerlesteing

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gym because I was just terrible at any of this stuf.

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Yeah, and if you're training with a team of people.

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Your habits way faster way in a team environment, all

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of a sudden, it's like the next day you're best

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friends with these people.

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It's just baked in even though they're in if.

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They're assholes, so you're kind of like you're suffering together

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as a group, right, Yeah, the number one to training together.

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That makes it a lot easier to bond.

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I think the number one advice would then be to

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find a gym that promotes that, and most private gyms

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bodybuilding across the field Olympic way leaving doesn't really matter

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the task or the style of gym. Most private ish gyms,

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even though when I go to in Vegas, just promote

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that slightly more. You know they'll have a belief there

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and people are saying hi, and people are at least nice.

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You go to commercial gym, and I do understand opposite

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because I go to bigger gyms for that reason too.

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Sometimes I like headphones in to be totally alone.

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But yeah, I would.

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I would find the environment of which leads to where

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you want to go. Part of it's on you to

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reach that, and if that gym is ten or twenty

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minute drive longer, pick your priorities. There's enough gyms on

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the planet that you can find a hardcore private gym.

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Now in almost every city and so make it happen. Yep,

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taking me an.

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Idea that I need to follow up on that after

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Yeah, take a responsibility on your own hand. Ladies and gentlemen,

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shout them out Dean, Where can they find you at.

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on all the social media. The show is fifty percent Facts,

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where percent is the word and the fifty is just numbers.

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And this like you splashing for some reason and I understand.

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Fifty percent Facts is a speaker Prime podcast and association

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with iHeartMedia on the Obscure Celebrity Network Celebrity Network.

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I can't say that right, We'll watch the next time.

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